tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4255946979377638758.post4749590015211658598..comments2023-12-30T19:19:08.377-08:00Comments on The Aeternal Swirling Fight : Critisizing Plain Jane part 4: Episode 1 part IIArwendë Luhtiénë / Marta Lúthienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01043611744907294700noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4255946979377638758.post-87352720746470398742015-07-16T14:37:40.467-07:002015-07-16T14:37:40.467-07:00I recall discussing parts of this comment in FB, b...I recall discussing parts of this comment in FB, but still, I wanted to say thanks for posting your live-blogging comment :)<br /><br />-Par 1-3: Yep, definitely the worst idea ever in those respects, plus a very invasive and downright mean thing to do overall :/ Apparently, it something that happens in every single episode with every single girl (I've only watched through series 1, while bleeding through all my pores because all the sexism, so I can't say if this is the case of the rest of seasons...more than one season of this garbage, can you imagine??)<br /><br />-Par 4: I suppose they would use the 'manly' or 'feminine' degree card if they asked about her occupation/studies, yes. Especially now I've just read that the stylist apparently thinks that studying Physics is the total opposite of being 'feminine' and 'sexy' *facepalming*<br /><br />-Par 6: I think the 'messy room' issue was the thing that we most discussed while on FB, so I'll try not to elaborate xD I'd like to repeat the idea that these people perpetuate the stereotype that single women 'with no love in their lives' and apparently so depressed about their single status tend o have messier and dirtier rooms and houses/flats in general. Because how on earth can a woman cope, or be remotely happy, without a man in ehr life, gods??!!!! Not only is this utterly sexist, I find it frankly distasteful that women be portrayed as chaotic and appallingly unhygienic because they are single or live alone. And like I think you mentioned, men are more 'allowed' to have messy rooms, even dirty rooms, because they are somehow more 'masculine' and 'manly' because of it, and because they need a woman to clean it all for them, right? Because men are allowed to be messy when they live alone or with someone because it's 'in their nature' to be like that so that women have to do all the freaking cleaning, apparently. Also, it's pretty funny how women are the 'cleanliness fans' only when they are cleaning for their man, but turn out to be messy and unhygienic when they mope alone in their man-free status...<br /><br />And absolutely, these shows keep on implying that these dates are only about attraction, and that shared interests are neither important nor attractive.<br /><br />Par 7-9: Yep :/<br /><br />Par 10: "Basically telling her that her personal choices for years about the looks she identifies with are worthless, and making her feel bad for every single one of them :("<br /><br />I agree, people who have a go at another people for the way they dress because they're not 'conventionally attractive and fashionable' are horrible beings who objetify and promote gender bias everywhere :/<br /><br />Go Sherlock :D!<br /><br />Thank you very much for the last paragraph :) Thank you as well for reading these and understanding these issues :) :)<br /><br />Arwendë Luhtiénë / Marta Lúthienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01043611744907294700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4255946979377638758.post-35984050975239980102015-06-15T15:08:22.905-07:002015-06-15T15:08:22.905-07:00So… making her have an experience that will now as...So… making her have an experience that will now associate her phobia of snails with going on dates, with the potential of she having memories of that event during the date that would make her lose any appetite or the desire to be kissing anyone for a while? Isn't that like the worst idea ever?<br /><br />I think my brain went into snark mode after that, and my reactions when reading were the following ones… (This comment might turn into a live-blogging of my thoughts on what you describe, after this point)<br /><br /><i>"So yeah, let's force this girl to have a terrifying time because we're doing it for a great cause"</i><br />Producers' room, after watching the footage:<br />"God dammit, Lousie, what did you do?! We said she should have a 'terrific' time on her dates. 'Terrif*IC*'!! I guess we'll have to repurpose the whole show now…"<br /><br /><i>"Hey, we don’t even know what she’s studying, if she’s studying!"</i><br />Maybe if she said she was studying they'd be like, "You're what? A good woman stays at home taking care of her man and the children! Why would you study anything? At least tell me it's not a manly degree, is it?"<br /><br /><i>"'I would do anything for a thousand dollars'"</i><br />o_O Nooooo… Just… no >_<<br /><br />About the messiness in the room… it might have been made like that on purpose, or maybe not. I've seen rooms like that. And regarding 'sexy time': it did *not* matter. Had she had the duvet and cushions well organized on the bed to make it look neat, everything would probably end up on the floor next to it, in a pile looking pretty much like what would happen if those things remained disorganized like in the pictures. Also, as you say, many girls have plush toys and I don't think that's ever been a problem, unless we're talking of creepy dolls with unsettling gazes or something like that. A mess like the one seen in the pictures could cause some problems if the room was much smaller and cushions or clothes didn't leave much space for walking around, for example, but even that one is not really that bad. When someone says that a mess would be so incredibly off-putting for a date or boyfriend, I think of <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwOZo11eo4Y" rel="nofollow">this</a>.<br />Also, having things that are geeky or related to her interests might make a potential partner be attracted to her *more* if they like similar things! Which would be good!<br /><br /><i>"And then proceeded to cheat on her. But somehow, it's all her fault for being messy and shy"</i><br />WHAT THE… HELL??? Seriously? :( And they claim to be helping girls with their self-esteem in this show?<br /><br /><i>"Also, you go and remark 'that's not good for ego'. That's rich coming from a stylist whose only job is to alter young girls' looks, personality and lifestyles. Hypocrisy much?"</i><br />Exactly! See above! :-/<br /><br /><i>"Cristen’s parents and friends, who just keep insulting Cristen. Now she's 'shy' and 'walks hunched down'...'because of guys like this'."</i><br />I guess everyone telling her she's a mess and she won't ever be loved as she is has not contributed at all to her shyness and low self-esteem, in their view?<br /><br />I don't even know what to say about the bit with her clothes… Reading all that is just making me sad about what a horrible person the stylist is. Basically telling her that her personal choices for years about the looks she identifies with are worthless, and making her feel bad for every single one of them :(<br /><br /><br />Aaaand the post ends with another reason for me to keep watching Sherlock. I will…! I promise :P<br /><br />Seeing how just *reading* this makes me angry and sad, I can only try to imagine what you must feel watching the show and writing these posts. So I feel I should say a big THANK YOU for doing it and sharing it on your blog for all of us to see. I'll be here for the next one…DarkSapienshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00985488862934796951noreply@blogger.com